my house

ever since i was in my early teens i learned to compare my own me with a house. throughout my life i have had different dreams about this house. at this point i am coming out of a 9-year relationship and have been having a hard time processing this. last night i dreamt about my "house" last night and this person that i've been in relationship was everywhere in my house. it gave me a sense of protection and peace. now i wonder if i should keep him in my house in my future dreams for the sake of the saying "always keeping a person in your heart". or should i somehow ask him to leave my house, and maybe even tell him to never come back again. if i dream about my house in 5 years, do i still want him to be walking around in it? but when someone has such a strong presence in your house, what will it be like when they leave? will it be lonely, quiet? will the sounds echo off of the walls? what if i left a picture of him on my wall in the hallway? i think his picture would just haunt me like a ghost. i think when he leaves my house, i'm going to fill it with potted flowers and paintings of other people's houses...